Here are some signposts that the grip of grief, and where there is unforgiveness, has loosened, based on insights and research from the Grief Recovery Method and related research. This list is not in any particular order.

1. A noticeable reduction in the intensity of grief-related emotions.

2. Being able to recall memories without overwhelming sadness.

3. A renewed interest in daily activities and hobbies.

4. Experiencing a sense of peace and acceptance regarding the loss.

5. Feeling less anger or resentment towards the person or situation.

6. An increased ability to talk about the loss without intense emotional reactions.

7. Improved physical well-being and energy levels.

8. Being able to experience joy and laughter again.

9. A willingness to form new relationships or deepen existing ones.

10. The ability to think about the future with hope.

11. A decrease in physical symptoms often associated with grief, such as headaches or fatigue.

12. A sense of closure or resolution regarding the loss.

13. A feeling of gratitude for the time and experiences shared with the lost loved one.

14. An ability to engage in meaningful activities that were previously avoided.

15. Being able to forgive oneself for any perceived mistakes or regrets.

16. Not feeling guilty about moving forward or experiencing happiness.

17. The capacity to set new goals and pursue them.

18. Feeling a sense of connection to others and the world around.

19. The ability to express emotions openly and healthily.

20. A renewed sense of purpose and meaning in life.

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These signs can indicate that someone is beginning to heal and move forward from grief as well as unforgiveness.