Disappointment and The Mourning Practice
by Erin Merrihew
1. Notice, what I wanted that did not happen.
2. What I wanted wasn’t bad. I’m not wrong because something didn’t go the way I wanted or expected.
3. It is okay for me to want ______________ .
4. I am so SAD, it wasn’t possible IN THIS SITUATION (I am mourning, it is the process that brings me back into the reality of what is actually occurring. IN THIS SITUATION, not always or never for the future, one moment of disappointment and can be different in the future.)
5. NOTE: If you find yourself in resistance to what actually happening. Try to step back and look at what actually took place and slow down, what really happened? HOW YOU FEEL. There is a tendency to go to a story about what happened that has a negative thought track, and makes the reaction worse and mourning is less possible.
6. TUNE IN TO FEEling the sadness, as you are able to feel it and mind a middle way of more acceptance and less interaction and more in the present moment of what is actually occurring.