How to take a break during conversations at home when either partner is getting flooded.

1) If one person asks for a break, the other partner needs to agree without either partner trying to have the last word. Just stop.

2) Agree on a time to resume the conversation. The break should last at least 20 minutes but no longer than 24 hours.

3) During the break, go to separate places where neither of you can see or hear the other, if possible, such as individual rooms in the house or one person going outside while the other stays inside, etc.

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d) During the break, do something self-soothing to take your mind off the discussion or mismatch with your partner, such as reading a book, listening to music, taking a walk, going for a run, or tending to chores.

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It's important not to think of how you can next respond right away, as that will only keep your nervous system flooded. Allow imaginary conversations in your head about your partner or yourself to subside so you can more calmly take responsibility for your own behavior and then return more calmly to discuss and repair with your partner.

Ensure that both of you come back to talk at the agreed time. Iftill upset, they can ask for more time to calm down. This shows that the issue is being taken seriously and not being ignored. one of you is s

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f) After reuniting in a calmer state, attempt to resume the conversation and perform the necessary repair steps. How To Have A Repair Conversion