Overwhelmed and Detached

"Emotional flooding occurs when one or both partners' heart rates increase rapidly, leading to heightened emotions overriding reason. When you are flooded neurologically and emotionally, you may act and speak in extreme ways in the relationship. Julie Gottman stresses the importance of taking a break for at least 20 minutes and refraining from discussing the argument. Once both partners have regained their calm, which may take longer than can harm at least 20 minutes, they can revisit the conversation than 20 minutes but should be a

Stonewalling happens when a person is feeling emotionally overwhelmed. Rather than expressing their feelings outwardly, they detach and may seem cold and uninterested in what their partner is saying. Stonewalling is a sign of being flooded with emotions, and it indicates that the person needs at least 20 minutes to take a time out and feel safe before they can engage with their partner.