Goals and Objectives of Couples Therapy

The primary aim of therapy is to increase your knowledge about your partner, yourself, and your patterns of interaction. Therapy becomes effective as you apply new knowledge to break ineffective patterns and develop better patterns.

The essential tasks of couples therapy are increasing your clarity about:

  • The kind of life you want to build together

  • The kind of partner you aspire to be to build the kind of life and relationship you want to create

  • Your blocks to becoming the kind of partner you aspire to be

  • The skills and knowledge necessary to do the above tasks

Tradeoffs and Tough Choices

To create sustained improvement in your relationship, you need the following:

  • A vision of the life you want to build together

  • To have a life separate from your partner because you are not joined at the hip.

  • The appropriate attitudes and skills to work as a team

  • The motivation to persist

  • Time to review progress