Controlled Separation: A Marriage Coma

By Carolyn Klassen

A Controlled Separation is to a couple, what a Medically Induced Coma is to a severely injured patient.

Let me explain:

Scientific American wrote an article about Medically Induced Coma.  A medically induced coma is a state of unconsciousness created by highly trained physicians using medication.  It slows the body’s metabolism down to allow a brain that is swelling to heal.  The coma protects the brain from further damage that could be caused by further swelling.

Medically Induced Comas are a drastic measure that attempts to save a life. They are used when the injuries are life threatening.

The article also goes on to say that although the medically induced coma is carefully done under the full supervision of physicians with medication used in surgery, there are risks, and an effort is made to make the period of coma as brief as possible.

The subtitle to the article: Medically induced comas are only used when other options are lacking.

In other words, it’s a last ditch effort. And when nothing else is working, a medically induced coma can save a person’s life.  Not nearly always.  But sometimes.

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There are times in some marriages where the relationship is so raw that even attempts to save it create further damage.

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Sometimes, the raw reaction to a relationship crisis catches one or both spouses off guard. Yelling, throwing things, saying nasty things that are out of character, waking a spouse up in the middle of the night to ask questions for which there are no good answers. A person may feel powerless to stop, even though it’s clear that this isn’t helpful. The collateral damage creates another whole level of crap to have to work through.

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